James asked:
I don’t see the point of having sex because I think that I am too ugly to get a girlfriend in the first place. I am 16 and am already planning on never having sex because I simply can’t imagine myself getting a girlfriend, getting married, and then having sex. It is much easier imagining myself being single the rest of my life, with a successful job. I am shy and I believe that I am ugly, although girls somehow think I am handsome, seeing as how many of them have complimented my looks.
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I don’t see the point of having sex because I think that I am too ugly to get a girlfriend in the first place. I am 16 and am already planning on never having sex because I simply can’t imagine myself getting a girlfriend, getting married, and then having sex. It is much easier imagining myself being single the rest of my life, with a successful job. I am shy and I believe that I am ugly, although girls somehow think I am handsome, seeing as how many of them have complimented my looks.
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December 29th, 2008 - 3:00 am
You are depressed, my friend. Seek medical help and talk with a good friend or family member. This is not a good thing, and can get worse.
December 31st, 2008 - 1:28 pm
It’s your life.
January 1st, 2009 - 4:59 am
You should have sex if you can get it and I’m sure you will be able to but, do the world a favor and wear a condom. We don’t need you reproducing.
January 2nd, 2009 - 8:19 pm
Number one you are in high school. Things CHANGE after high school. Get out on your own go to college and live your life. If being single the rest of your life makes you happy and truly happy then do it. Don’t sit here and predict to be single because you think a girl will never want to be with you. I would just focus on your life right now and doing what makes you happy. Then in the end it will all fall into place. Good luck!
January 6th, 2009 - 4:28 am
There is someone out there for anyone. Seeing how you are getting compliments, I really see no problem with you getting a girl. Its your self esteem you need to work on. Remember-women love a confident man.
January 6th, 2009 - 11:57 pm
Give yourself time. As you get older you will realize that phsyical looks are not everything. you will find someone who will love you for you. You are 16, don’t map out your entire life just yet
January 9th, 2009 - 10:06 am
you sound a bit depressed which might be why no one would want to have sex with you
January 10th, 2009 - 5:22 am
Get a job, be successful, dont get married. You will be more happy, and then later on in life u will meet someone who is RIGHT for you, then spend your life with her.
January 12th, 2009 - 10:54 pm
If other people think your handsome , you are! The key to this is to beleive in yourself. If you don’t beleive you are handsome or will ever get a girlfriend then your the only person stopping yourself from doing that. =) Hope i helped good luck
January 16th, 2009 - 4:52 am
it’s not all about looks. for some people it is, but the ones that matter count personality first.
it’s your choice if you want to stay single or never have sex…but if you’re only choosing that because you think you’re ugly, then you haven’t thought it through.
you’re only 16…you have plenty of time to do all these things. sure, you say you don’t want to now. but that might change in a few years.
if someone compliments you, take the compliment. i hate when guys argue with me after i give them a compliment. and not having confidence is extremely unattractive.
January 18th, 2009 - 3:18 pm
U need help.
Even if you do think your ugly some girls think your handsome.
If they aint to bad looking themselves why not go for it.
Abstainance is for pussys and religious nut jobs.
Get some confidence and have some fun lol
January 19th, 2009 - 7:36 pm
You are only 16 and already you are thinking of marriage and not having a gf. Wait until college you’ll find someone its too soon for you right now you need to worry more about your future then your sex life.
January 22nd, 2009 - 10:25 am
First off you need to get that ugly stuff out of your mind. There is someone out there for you that thinks you are the most sexy man on earth. Its ok to be shy but you dont have to down yourself just because of that. Religious or not, if you want to have sex, you will have it. If you dont, than that is your decision. I think you really need to have more confidence in yourself and just let life take its course and you will experience love and sex and whatever else you want to.
January 23rd, 2009 - 4:21 pm
That’s an image issue. Especially if people are complimenting you.
Plus, you’re 16 - that’s nothing. The first thing I’d recommend is act like you don’t care about your appearance or that you are hot. It doesn’t actually matter whether you are or not, the confidence is the big kicker there.
Plus, you almost certainly won’t abstain for your entire life, simply because it is harder RESISTING sex ultimately in life than it is getting it.
January 27th, 2009 - 2:36 am
the way you look at 16 is definitely not the way you will look for the rest of your life! Most guys grow until their early 20s. Certainly you don’t have to make a decision today if you will ever get married. I know high school is a difficult time, but at least for me college was waaaay better. Try to hang in there, and strive to be a man of character. Real women don’t just want to marry a handsome face, but a guy who is sincere, gentle, kind, a good leader, courageous, etc.
January 27th, 2009 - 8:56 am
There is no pressure to make that decision! You don’t have to resolve to have sex or not, just take life as it comes.
And don’t worry about your looks. If girls say you’re handsome than you probably are, but I know it’s hard to build up self-esteem when you can’t see it yourself. Perhaps seek some help or counselling over this, if it’s a real problem. Besides most girls go for more than looks, and the ones who don’t aren’t probably the best girls to be with in the first place.
Be optimistic: you never know what’s going to happen! I’m shy too, but that doesn’t mean you have to be lonely.
January 28th, 2009 - 7:26 pm
U need to stop doubting yourself or all those things might happen
u never know what gonna happen
so you should stop thinking all these things because to me confidence is what i look in a person (mostly in a boy that i want)
January 30th, 2009 - 12:31 am
you’ve asked this question many times today
go get help
February 2nd, 2009 - 12:19 am
if a girl asks you out on a date or something someday just say yes and try it youll change your mind eventually
February 3rd, 2009 - 2:05 am
Only make that decision if you want to. You’ll be respected. It’s one you should make yourself. But heck, I don’t think you’re as ugly as you think you are. Maybe you’re just depressed. I used to think I was like the ugliest person alive, but now I guess I’m a pretty decent looking person. There are times I feel and know I look pretty.
I’m religious, but I don’t think I want to have sex even when I do marry or before. That is my personal opinion, even if I wasn’t religious, I would still feel the same way. It just seems really scary to me. We all have reasons why we want to or don’t want to have sex.
But hey, think about it this way. I’d rather have sex with the kindest, most confident, honest guy in the world, then the biggest, hottest jerk alive. Yep Yep? Looks aren’t everything.
And on the topic of looks, people have diffent taste. Your chocoloate is someone else’s Twizzlers. My Alex Evans (yay) is someone else’s Chad Micheal Murry (ew). Alot of girls I know don’t have the same taste or type as I do. And some do. So it’s not that you’re ugly. You’re just probably not what some people are looking for, and to others you may be. Savvy?
February 4th, 2009 - 5:10 pm
Everyone has self esteem issues, but yours seem to run deep.
Get help darlin, you KNOW you dont deserve to live unhappily like this. Everyone has the right to enjoy sex, AND THAT INCLUDES YOU!!!
I am 16 too, but a girl.
I’ve had a good few self esteem issues, but wouldn’t dream of denying myself sex with the right person, at the right time.
By not having sex, you are gonna miss out on soooo much fun,
that we as humans have a right to have.
Nature wants you to have sex, and secretly - so do you!
There IS a hidden sexual side to you, you just havn’t discovered it yet - WHY? Because you are letting deep rooted self esteem issues stand in the way.
Tackle this by getting counsilling, push aside those demons that are telling you you’re ugly,with help from a counsillor.
Then explore your sexuality, and let in ripen and flourish in its own time.
Please feel free to message me if you’d like to talk to someone your own age, just click on my picture then click email this person.
Hope this helps, if not - message me! x
February 4th, 2009 - 7:45 pm
haha. you’re going to want to have sex one day.
February 8th, 2009 - 4:43 am
AGAIN WITH THIS STUPID QUESTION. What is this, 20? 30 times you’ve asked this question?
I agree — don’t have sex. God forbid, you might reproduce.
February 9th, 2009 - 8:42 pm
This is not true ……… no one on this planet is ugly….everyone is met to be loved…
you are not ugly it is all in your head.
try not to be shy and you will find your way.
Good Luck.
February 11th, 2009 - 8:30 pm
dude you are only 16, don’t give up on girls for all i know you may turn out to be a late bloomer
just workout and be confident and not so depressed all the time
February 13th, 2009 - 9:50 pm
The only reason I’m answering this question despite how stupid it sounds is because I decided to eat to much ice cream so I’m very hyper and can’t go to sleep. First of all, there is a difference between priest/nun type abstinent and being abstinent until you’re married, whether you’re religious or not. You’re only 16. Don’t predict your entire life just yet. You still have 80 years left to live (if you’re lucky). Here’s an example, my mom didn’t date anyone until she was got out of COLLEGE (had first date at 24) even though she was very very hot. I ought to know I saw her pictures from when she was 20-40. And she ended up marrying a man (my dad XD) who lived on the other side of the PLANET at the age of 38 and moved there (my mom grew up in SOUTH KOREA, my dad in America). No one ever saw it coming, not even them. Any way, if you’re really not good looking then people wouldn’t be giving you compliments. Society today makes such a big deal about looks it’s an overkill. Hey, I don’t think I look good either (mainly because I don’t care) but all my classmates think I look prettier then them even though I don’t wear makeup, wear skimpy clothing, or even do my hair for 2 hours. Seriously, even if you’re just decent looking, true confidence can make a person “glow.” That and teens have a tendency to make others look 10xs more dashing then they really are and make themselves (yourself in your case) look 10xs worse then they really are. Kinda like when a model looks in a mirror- instead of a 100lb chick they see a 500lb Jaba the Huttess. Anyway, the point is looks don’t completely matter and you’ve lived less than a fourth of your whole life, assuming you die of old age. Although I have to agree with the others, you sound like you’re a little depressed. Work out some- the endorphins (pleasure chemicals that are released from doing labor/physical activities that make you swet and drop near death) will kick in eventually lol But seriously, save your first time for the girl you marry (and is “the one”). It’ll be much more special that way.
February 16th, 2009 - 8:48 am
o please u jus want attention
February 16th, 2009 - 8:48 pm
youll get laid.
everyone does
February 19th, 2009 - 12:57 am
you’ll be fine every one can get a girl
February 21st, 2009 - 9:12 am
First off no i have been in your place and believe me you just got to act confident and you will have girls all over you thats what it did i just one day said fuck it im gonna be a different person from now on and i ended up with a great job sucessful career and a beautiful wife. well that was after i went thru my little phase of sleeping with everything that walked talked and had a vagina.
February 23rd, 2009 - 1:13 am
Maybe ur gay??
February 23rd, 2009 - 1:38 pm
Dude? Are you serious? Your 16 and a male, you have more than 10 years before the stupid part is over. At least I hope so, I’m 27 and this is getting old. My point is I have you by ten or so and I still have a heap to learn. I didn’t lose my virginity till i was 17. The only big decision you need to concern your self with at the moment is, what you want to do for a living. Everything else is gravy after that.
February 25th, 2009 - 4:14 pm
omg how culd u ever live a life like tht poor poor child u must have sex every1 has to get laid once in thr life u dont need to have a gf to get laid go to clubs hoes prsotitutes pay or just jack off
February 28th, 2009 - 11:21 am
be confident, girls are attracted to confident guys, not cocky, but confident! you’ll have sex…even the ugliest have sex at least once!
March 3rd, 2009 - 1:24 am
You need to quit putting yourself down…
Don’t be so pessimistic…
I’m sure there are tons of girls out there that would want to be with you…
Don’t forget you are also in high school…
Things change when you get older…
Especially when you go to college…
Go out and live life quit lowering your own self-esteem and go out and do something to boost it…
If you really feel like being abstinent your whole life then so be it…
Its your own decision…
However if you are making that decision based on your beliefs of being too ugly and not being able to find a girlfriend then it is definitely the wrong decision…
There is someone out there…
Don’t doubt yourself so much..
March 6th, 2009 - 1:12 am
Actually not focusing on sex is healthy. You can focus on your studies and the rest of the world better. Girls will always be around for friendship. If they do not want to become friends first respect her space.
They is always a girl out there where you can share things in common with. It might then turn into a relationship. If it doesn’t turn into a relationship stay friends and focus on the things you personally like best.
Like a job, hobbies, etc…
There is no need to have sex or masturbate to ejaculation for health reasons. The body can happily cope with unused sperm, with no impact on fertility or sex drive.
Source-ME
Look at a woman without lust by understanding what each part of their body is actually used for. Wait until marriage for sex.